Monday, January 10, 2011

Gifts - What Do You Buy For Friends?



For some reason, I am terrible at gift buying. I think I fret way too much over getting the "right" gift.

I have a lovely acquaintance who has sent me three gifts, NICE gifts so far over the past few years.

I have sent nothing!



She is from Australia, here in the states, likes vintage, but darned if I can remember what kind? Italian Renaissance? I have no idea what that is =( And it looks expensive.

So she recently sent me something again, and I must send something back.



A lovely vintage or cute pin like the one's pictured here?

Some Bath and Body Works goodies?

What????

I am terrible at these things!


What do you give when you are not sure?

And does it really matter if it's not "perfect"?

Am I worrying too much if she will "like it"? (Yes!!)


Your suggestions would be most helpful!
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19 comments:

  1. How about hitting up the used book store and finding her a nicely bound copy of some classic literature?

    My sister in law Vania once surprised me with a beautiful hardcover copy of a collection of Edgar Allen Poe stories with its provenance written in the front fly leaves over the years as it passed from hand to hand. I treasure it.

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  2. She's sent you THREE presents and you haven't sent her anything? Gee, imagine that--someone who just enjoys giving stuff without expecting something back! Smelly stuff is great but you could choose something YOU like and she could hate it. I like Maria's idea--if your friend is sending you blingy jewelry, chances are she has a bunch. I'm sure she would treasure whatever you sent, though.

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  3. An awesome book is the perfect gift. When I go to visit my friends in the UK, I am bringing them a great book about mid-century architecture from where I live. http://calmodbooks.com/index.html

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  4. If you are worried about giving something she might like, how about a gift card to her favorite bookstore? I am not big on gift cards, I like to shop for others, but when you just do not know what to give, those never fail.

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  5. She sent me an amazing Art Deco clock (not working, but it's a good one!!), some Belgium chocolate and a pair of earrings from New Zealand where she was recently. A few post cards...

    Gee, still not sure what to get her!!!

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  6. sounds like she's put a bit of thought into the gifts to you! If she eats chocolate, how about some of that choc you mentioned ages ago, I can't remember the name but it's only in America, something candies I think.

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  7. I like to give vintage pins, personalized note cards, wine, gourmet candy and home fragrances. If I know a specific store a friend likes, I give gift cards, but I'm not big on generic gift cards.

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  8. Wow what a lovely friend, and the saying goes you shouldn't give to recieve but you do feel guilty and thats because your a kind person to. How about a nice vintage brooch or a necklace there very personnal and most women like jewelry, and maybe a homemade lavender bag for her wardrobe and or maybe some vintage hankies.Good luck with what you decide. Dee x

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  9. Wow, how nice. Personally, you can't go wrong sending bath items, candy or maybe a gift basket filled with a variety of little treats.

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  10. I love to give earrings...maybe because I love them myself. Depending on what her style is you should be able to find a pair that she will love.

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  11. Thanks for the suggestions so far!

    I think if I get a mix of things, do my best to make them personalized, and send, she will be happy and I won't feel like a real heel!!

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  12. Hit up Etsy.com and just start searching around. You will know it when you see it!

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  13. I thought I was the only person who still said 'fret.'

    I never know what gifts to give either. I'm happy with anything anybody gives me but have trouble accepting the fact others are just like I am, so I spend a lot of time worrying over it.

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  14. Utah Oilfield TrashJanuary 11, 2011 at 8:06 AM

    One of my favorite things to give is a sun print kit. (sunprints.org) They are inexpensive and fun---and your friend can create some great art that suits her tastes!
    I have a friend who sends me whole vanilla beans--one of my favorite gifts to recieve since I am too thrifty to buy them for myself.

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  15. She would love anything about courting.
    Romantic. This period was about ornate. Think about Mona Lisa.
    A nice jewelry box with a courting couple, lamp, china.
    I tend to gravitate myself towards romantic things.

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  16. If she is someone like you then odds are you two have similar tastes. Don't put so much worry into the gift. Maybe a few small gifts wrapped up in a cute package!

    I tend to get overly tense about gifts as well because there are several people in my life for whom nothing is good enough. This person in your life sounds wonderful! Let go and find some super cute things, I'm sure she'll love it!

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  17. Does she blog? Then look back at her posts and see what she loves/collects! Otherwise, anything to do with smelling good and pampering is always a good bet! Zootsuitmama

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  18. If she likes vintage, I would suggest some vintage jewelery. A vintage pin, some earrings f.ex..:) I think the pin on the last photo is lovely!!

    I think it's the thought that counts though, just that you made the effort to send her something shows that you think about her and appreciate the friendship..;)

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