Well, one thing went right. The pink and white two tiered shade arrived, undamaged, and looks like it was made for the lamp I intended it for.
Anyone else have trouble getting these lampshades to "sit" evenly? They all seem to tilt a bit. The ones that clip on the bulb are easy enough to adjust, but the one's that fit on a lamp harp and use a finial seem to need little folds of paper, just the right thickness jammed between the finial and the shade hole to keep them from tilting one way or another.
On another note, Chris, my 1950's Atomic Ranch House cat seems to love that damaged box the crushed shade arrived in. The one I almost threw out, but grabbed just before the trash truck came along, when I got that not so nice note about a return demand.
One more round of advice from all of you:
I posted about this on the eBay Packing and Shipping board.
The consensus is this:
Once I opened a "case" with eBay, and she refunded, and the case was closed, she has no recourse to do anything about demanding the return of the crushed shade.
Also, I can ignore her.
I thought about offering to return it, IF she sends me the cost first, but then I realized:
The post office probably would not accept a damaged box, even if it's a return.
So I'd have to go find another box, which would likely weigh more, and be out time and money for additional weight (even if she did send me money to return the shade).